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Change. It's personal.

This month is sure to bring more uncertainty, more challenges and undoubtedly, more change.

I've spent some time trying to understand my journey over the past couple of months. I wanted to share the emotional phases we often experience when dealing with enforced change.I hope they resonate and provide a little reassurance.

1. Paralysis.

We find it hard to focus, the information being thrown at us doesn’t seem to sink in and we feel a sense of disbelief. We tend to be a little confused and anxious which stops us thinking clearly and knowing how to act.








2. Denial

We try to convince ourselves that the events expected will never occur. We may refuse to discuss it by not confronting the issue we hope it will simply go away.






3. Anger

We focus our stress on blaming someone or something, only underlining the negatives. We find it almost impossible to see any opportunity at this point.







4. Depression

Things can get dark. We feel lethargic and lose enthusiasm. We start to feel like victims with no sense of control. We don’t believe that our voice is being heard.






5. Exploration

We start to feel more positive and participate. We start to ask more constructive questions and see opportunities ahead. We slowly gain a sense of control and the ability to seize opportunities.






6. Acceptance

We are aware of others needs and feel that we can offer support . The process of helping others builds a sense of control and proactivity that drives us. We are more engaged and are able to see the bigger picture.





If we can be aware that these phases are a natural response to change, then we can try not to feel guilty about the way we respond. We shouldn’t deny them, but know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and we should look for it.

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